When we contemplate giving, our thoughts turn to money, gifts and perhaps even volunteering. Donating to worthwhile causes or offering our time and expertise are important contributions but how often do we consider the power of the gift of recognition – of acknowledging the unique value of another person and their contributions.
Donating is associated with the notion of philanthropy. When we research the derivation of the word, we find that philanthropy refers to the love of humanity, the love of what it means to be generous for both the benefactor and the beneficiary. What it means to be generous goes beyond the optics, but rather what we know, what we possess and how much we care.
Recognizing someone else’s generosity and their contributions and their willingness to recognize and appreciate another person’s gift is the ultimate act of kindness; of philanthropy. Imagine the impact of giving yourself. Relationships with your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, clients and community could impact them all and result in a new level of spirit, cooperation, kindness and giving.
Philanthropy Tips
1) Be present. When you are with another, whether you are offering a professional service, advice, financial support or carrying their suitcase – be there. Make that individual feel delighted in this moment. Allow them to recognize that he or she is the most important person to you. Put aside your to do list and offer others your full attention.
2) Make every encounter, no matter how mundane, entirely about the other person.
3) Suspend your beliefs, assumptions, expectations and judgments long enough to hear what the other person is really saying. The act of listening has always been an art.
4) Pause before you respond – don’t interrupt or try to finish his or her sentences to make your immediate views known.
5) Once the other person has finished speaking, check in. Repeat what you have heard to ensure you got it right.
6) Determine what the other person wants from you next: advice, support, or simply silence.
Finally, be generous, always.
Written by: David Porter, CPCA